Marriage Health Checklist

STINKING THINKING

Discovering typical beliefs in unhealthy relationships

1) Being together and unhappy is safer than being alone.

2) It is safer to be with other people than to be alone and intimate with my partner.

3) If I let my partner know who I am, what I have done or what I am feeling, he or she will leave me.

4) It is easier to hide and medicate my feelings through addictive,compulsive behavior ( TV, computer, shopping, working out, drugs, alcohol, busyness....) than express them.

5) Being caught up and totally Dependant on each other is seen as being in love.

6) We find it difficult to ask for what we need, both individually and as a couple.

7) Being sexual is equal to being intimate.

8) We either avoid our problems, or feel individually responsible for solving them.

9) We believe we must agree on everything.

10) We believe we must enjoy the same things and have the same interests.

11) We believe that to be a good couple we must be socially acceptable.

12) We have forgotten how to play together.

13) It is safer to get upset over little issues than to express our true feelings about larger ones.

14) It is easier to blame our partners than accept responsibility.

15) We deal with conflict by getting totally out of control or not arguing at all.

16) We see ourselves as inadequate parents.

17) We are ashamed of ourselves as a couple.

18) We repeat patterns of dysfunction from our family of origin.

If you relate to the above join us in discovering God's plan for your marriage, for you to experience true intimacy.

Mark Laaser PH.D.